This Is How We Homeless - Emancipated Parenting Launches
The Chronicles of The Emancipated Momma
This Is How We Homeless -
Emancipated Parenting Launches
Chapter 1: The Guts and the Glory
Section A: The Guts Continued - Emancipated Parenting Launches
Welcome and welcome back 👋🏾! It's another amazing day in paradise 🤩. Thank you so much for being here.
Happy Mother's Day to all who are celebrating and/or being celebrated!
The main message I've been sending out includes my hope that, "all moms feel uplifted, supported and most importantly successful as a mom.
"We often get down about what we didn't do. But we're phenomenal because there is so much we do get done.
"Thank you to all the bonus moms, dads and other village members that help make our jobs even more fulfilling. Continued success and so much Love to you all! Double hugs from me and Wisdom. Enjoy the amazing day you're creating and being created for you. Peace..."
Mother's Day can be a very challenging day for mothers and for other women too. I was 42 when I celebrated my first Mother's Day as a mother. It was not memorable.
This one is. The only wish I had was to wake up in a bed. And I did. A gift from my first paying Emancipated Parenting client!
Many of the previous years I didn't want to celebrate because I longed to be a mom. And/or I didn't always have the best relationship with my own mom so I didn't feel like celebrating her either. That's why I feel like God, in His Divine Timing, has prepared me to introduce Emancipated Parenting on Mother's Day.
If you've never heard of the word emancipated it's OK! I hope it becomes a part of our culture as another way people describe how they feel. Most people have heard of the word emancipation, but only in relation to the Emancipation Proclamation, the document that freed the slaves in 1863.
By definition, freedom from slavery or bondage is one of emancipate's two meanings. The other is the legal separation of a child from their parents. The way I'm defining emancipate is a combination of both. It is the "mental, spiritual and emotional freedom of your inner child from the ways your brain developed and your nervous system was triggered during your formative years; freedom from ways that no longer serve you".
That's a lot of words. If you don't know the meaning of some of them or what the statement means, it's OK. Before I studied to become a parent coach, three years ago, none of this was even a part of my vocabulary. So I resemble that comment. Please let me try to explain what I mean.
During the first 5-7 years of life, we experienced a wide range of events. Some were more traumatic than others. The way our parents or primary caregivers met our needs during those events (regardless of the level of trauma) determined, among other things, how we view ourselves and how our brains would unconsciously respond to those wide range of events in the future.
So if we were severely punished as a child, that has its implications. If we were intentionally neglected during those years, that has its implications. If our needs were ignored and our emotions were dismissed, those have their own implications.
We might be angry. We might be violent. We might be sad. We might be depressed. We might be suicidal. The one thing we are not is OK.
With Emancipated Parenting you get to change your narrative. You do NOT have to say "I'm fine" when you're not. You don't have to settle for "this is the way that I am". When I understood this my mind was blown.
It was then that I realized that during the early childhood "formative years", the way our brain develops and our nervous systems are regulated form the foundation of how we will behave as adults. That was crazy to me! But it also helped me understand myself which led me to better understand others.
One thing I have often said, especially as the parent of a young Black male superhero, is children are the most oppressed citizens in society. I see and have experienced so many things that are heartbreaking. And that's why the platform I'm building is called Emancipated Parenting. Our children need society to be a safe place to just be a child. Of course boundaries are important but punishment isn't, cruelty isn't, oppression isn't.
While the Emancipation Proclamation freed the slaves, it did not free the slave/slave master mentality. That's where Emancipated Parenting comes in. In case someone thinks I'm shaming or blaming our progenitors (or even some parents today), let me add that I believe people (past and present) did the very best they could with the education they had in the circumstances they were living under. Because we know better (or desire to know better), we're going to do better.
Emancipated Parenting is for freeing individuals from the ways they were parented that didn't recognize brain development, nervous system regulation, trauma and nutrition. We're supporting individuals through a process of engaging their brain's neuroplasticity (ability to change) to create peacefully transformative outcomes within themselves that they can eventually use in all their relationships. In other words, Emancipated Parenting is about emancipating yourself.
I feel there are three types of people this experience is for:
1. You are re-parenting your inner child,
2. You're engaging little humans under your stewardship or
3. You have broken relationship you're hopeful to repair.
If any of those resonate with you, believe me when I say, this is the place for you.
The three things you can expect to gain from this experience are:
1. Connect to Respect, Respect to Connect: there's a difference between being related and having a relationship; relationship are build on connection and respect
2. Tools to put yourself in a state of moving to peace from war, internally so you can perpetuate peace externally
3. Confidence and consciousness to know when and how to repair a situation with another human, adult and child
This is so important because it reminds me of the three main lessons I've learned from Wisdom:
1. We're all Wisdom. That means we all "learn what we live and live what we learn". What makes us unique is how we take the combination of things we've learned and redispense it to the community. End of story.
2. We're all superheroes. If you don't know me, this one might not make sense so please let me explain. Whenever I introduce myself, I say, "My given name is Kara Lynn Sanders. My super she-ro name is Momma Kai because I found my superpowers being the mom and student of a young Black male superhero."
While the reason I call Wisdom my superhero is definitely figurative. I feel like he really did save my life. It is also literal because he changes his identity depending on who he's around.
When he's around people he is comfortable with he's super talkative and engaging. When he's around people he doesn't feel comfortable with, even if he does know them, he acts like he can't talk.
He's a totally different person. And if we are honest with ourselves, we are all like that. We are not the same with everyone we know. Our ability to change identities makes us all superheroes.
3. Repair is the key! Have to seen this IG reel by Dr. Vanessa LaPointe - https://www.instagram.com/reel/DJIOkExy1Tl/?igsh=ZXEwMXdmZWIzbnFr? She says, "In the most healthy relationships, parents and children are only in sync around the connection 30% of the time". I know. YIKES! Right?
She goes on to say the rest of the time (yes 70%) is spent in rupture and repair. "We fall out of connection and we find our way back in." (You can breathe again, maybe.) She does make it clear that the damage comes when we don't find our way back to connection.
Emancipated Parenting can help. We provide tools to build the foundation for connection and respect. Because connection leads to respect and respect leads to connection. Both of them start within.
If what I shared beckons you to jump in, I'm launching 3 12-week alliances within the next 6 weeks. Alliances is the name I've bestowing upon the (up to) 14 individuals (including myself) who gather with, learn from and support one another.
We are using "Transformational Parenting: The Ultimate Parent Success Course" for our curriculum. The course includes videos to watch and reflection activities to deepen your experience. We will meet weekly to discuss the material.
Before we officially gather you will be asked to keep a gratitude journal daily. This begins to engage your neuroplasticity towards having a best case scenario outlook on your circumstances which can lead to better outcomes in the future. Having a "worse case scenario" mindset is intrinsic to our natures. You didn't cause it but you can change it.
There will be opportunities for one-on-one coaching with me depending on what level of involvement you choose. There are two. You can join The PACK, which stands for "Parenting, A Career of Kindness" or you can be an Ally.
The difference is the amount of one-on-ones and gratitude journal support you'll receive during the 12 weeks. PACK members receive daily gratitude journal support and weekly coaching. There are only 3 slots available for each alliance. The Allies receive weekly gratitude journal support and 3 one-on-one in all: before we start, 6 weeks in and afterwards to provide feedback.
There is only a $200 difference between the two levels: ONLY $295 for Allies and a generous $495 for being part of the PACK. It's hard to believe both alliances are under $500! With coaching services being valued between $100-125/hour, this could easily cost $1500 or more. It is an incredibly low investment with a lifetime of infinite returns!
To get started, please fill out this form. There are limited spaces. Because this is virtual, companions, partners and/or spouses are welcome at no additional cost (if you do the one-on-one sessions together). It's an additional $250 if a spouse joins but is looking for separate one-on-ones.
Within 48 hours of receiving the form you will receive an email with instructions for starting your gratitude journal and a link to invite me into your world for a collaboration conversation. I look forward to being a guide and a student on this journey with you. Thank you again for being here and thank you in advance for trusting the process. Continued success. Enjoy the amazing day you're creating. Peace...
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